CHAPTER 02

If anyone asks me, what is your biggest green flag? I would answer it by saying that "LISTENING". Listening is a skill which is not appreciated very much. People don't know how important and difficut it is to be a listener. A listener who listens to other's problems, worries and opinions. Listening is tough, but at the same time the most easy thing to do.

It is difficult to be a listener, because as human beings we are build to contradict in every situation. We are trained in such a way that we think that we have to give our opinion in every little discussion. But that's not true. Sometimes we should just close our mouth and open our ears. No one will even notice you if we don't say something in a discussion. We take that as a pressure, but that's not true at all. 

Sometimes when  a friend of us is telling us their problem, we tend to think that the other person needs our advice, NO. Your advice is not that important to their problem. They just need someone to sit and JUST LISTEN. That's not the time to tell them what's wrong or right. Don't do that to someone. If someone has come up to you to tell something, then that's already a lot of courage they have gathered to speak about it. Do not speak anything and let their courage go in waste. 

A good listener will always appreciate others to talk more, because that's their skill. So if you are a good listener then you are one of the great people in the world. If you are a friend to a good listener then please go and message and thank them. 

There's one more thing I have noticed about a good listener that they are often a terrible speaker. When someone asks them to communicate, they just can't. Maybe that's the price they pay in their life. I know its harsh to say but it is what it is. A good listener can never tell their own feelings and problems to others, not even to that person they think they are close to. So if know a person who do not share their feelings, message and ask them about their life. 

Listening is a great skill anyone can have especially in a realtionship. Relationships are all about communication and understanding the other person. But in the process of listening others every time, don't forget to listen to yourself. It's very important to do that, because you should be the first priority in your own life. Listen to what your heart says, because you are also going through life. You also need someone to communicate with someone. Be vulnerable and speak. Try to talk to yourself, and prioritize your feelings.

PRIORITIZE YOURSELF.